The Entire Family Suffers from Substance Abuse

Substance AbusePeople get hurt feelings all the time in our world. Sometimes all it takes is a harsh word or a difference of opinion to set someone off. We may think that people who get their feelings hurt often need to get some tougher skin and not be so sensitive. Sometimes this is true, but sometimes repairing the hurt feelings between family and friends takes more than letting time run its course.

Addiction is a Family Affair

An addiction to drugs or alcohol does not just affect the individual addict; the entire family suffers. Sometimes friends suffer. Addiction causes a person to lie, deceive, steal, abuse, anger, and neglect family and friends, and naturally, the loved ones are going to feel hurt. A family that has been affected by a drug or alcohol addiction goes through a host of different emotions. Anger, disgust, and pity may come and go. Underneath everything else, however, is often emotional pain. Sometimes when they’ve felt everything else there is to feel, they end up still just feeling sad and hurt. Even those who understand enough about addiction to know it takes over a person’s life and makes them lose control so that their top priority is to get high, can be hurt by the actions of their loved one.

Broken Promises

Another aspect of the hurt a drug addict’s family experiences is the continual let down that occurs when their loved one says they want to get clean and are on their way to a better life, and then they relapse. The ups and downs of recovery and relapse make family members unable to believe their loved one when they make promises because they don’t want to get hurt again.

Talking About Feelings

For their own good and for the good of their loved one, family and friends with hurt feelings need to work through these issues. Instead of  hiding their emotions and not talking about them, a family needs to bring their feelings out into the open and find a way to repair the damage. A professional treatment facility can help families through therapy and counseling so that they can move on in the most healthy way. During the addict’s recovery from drugs or alcohol, counselors should meet with the entire family to help them all through this challenge.

Help for the Family

Forgiving someone for causing pain and hurt feelings is not an easy thing to do, but it is a necessary one. It does not mean that we condone what our loved one has done, but rather, that we will no longer carry that bitterness around with us. It means that we will work toward a resolution and, if possible, rebuild the relationship.

Hurt feelings can be more than the result of an overly sensitive personality. Sometimes hurt feelings are completely valid, as they are when a person has been wronged by someone living a life of substance addiction. Hurt feelings do not have to control our lives like drugs or alcohol control the addict’s life. Relying on the help of a therapist or support group, we can get past these feelings in the most constructive way.

 

Sources
Forgiveness: Letting go of grudges and bitterness
The Set Up Living With Addiction
About Therapy

Widespread Abuse of Alcohol

Alcohol abuse in the United States causes immeasurable physical and emotional harm every day – motorists die in drunk-driving accidents, and families are shattered by alcohol-fueled domestic violence. If alcohol abuse is a problem for you or your loved one, get help NOW before the damage gets any worse.


 

Alcohol abuse is widespread

College DrinkingAccording to the National Institutes of Health, 17.6 million Americans – about 1 in every 12 adults – abuse alcohol or are alcohol dependent. Alcoholism cuts across race, gender and nationality, though, in general, more men than women suffer from the disease.

Age-wise, alcohol abuse is most commonly found among young adults ages 18-29 and is least common among adults age 65 and older. Thankfully, there are alcohol abuse treatment programs that specialize in every possible demographic. Whether you’re 18 years old or 80 – and no matter what your particular situation- our treatment consultants can refer you to the right alcohol abuse treatment facility. At alcohol rehab, you’ll interact with folks like you, others with similar experiences.

What are the symptoms of alcohol abuse?

When trying to determine if you or a loved one is engaging in problem drinking, here are some questions to ask:

  • Have you ever felt you should cut down on your drinking?
  • Have people annoyed you by criticizing your drinking?
  • Have you ever felt bad or guilty about your drinking?
  • Have you ever had a drink first thing in the morning to steady your nerves or to get rid of a hangover?

One “yes” answer indicates a possible alcohol abuse problem. Multiple “yes” answers means it is highly likely that a problem exists.

Does alcohol abuse automatically signal alcoholism?

Not necessarily. There are people who, although they drink excessively, are not dependent on alcohol. But if left untreated, their alcohol abuse will often progress to full-blown alcoholism or further drug abuse.

Aside from the risk of developing alcoholism, there are other reasons why it is important to seek alcohol abuse treatment RIGHT AWAY. Problem drinking, even if it’s only the first time the drinker has lost control, can lead to horrible, life-changing tragedies. Drunk driving accidents are one clear example, but there are also plenty of babies born with disabilities because of a mother who drank during pregnancy. From school midterms to that all-important lunch meeting with the boss, there’s lot of key appointments in our day-to-day lives that we can miss – to our own detriment – when drinking gets out of hand.

The college binge-drinking problem

Speaking of midterms, one of the most common locations for dangerous binge-drinking alcohol abuse is at America’s colleges and universities. Parents must take the time to warn their children that alcohol, though legal, can actually be fatal in excessive amounts.

One such tragic death happened at the University of Kansas student Jason Wren – only 19 years old – died of alcohol poisoning at the Sigma Alpha Epsilon house after a night of heavy drinking. Wren’s father has pushed university leaders to make students more aware of the dangers of alcohol, a substance many wrongly believe to be harmless.

“Maybe if they were aware, someone would have called for help that evening instead of the next afternoon, when it was too late,” Jay Wren said in a comment on The University Daily Kansan website.

Remember, you are never too young to enter alcohol abuse treatment if drinking has become an uncontrollable problem. There are alcoholics at some Alcoholics Anonymous meetings that, technically, aren’t even old enough to drink. But these problem drinkers nevertheless got their hands on some booze – those suffering from addiction always find a way.

The important thing is not how old you are, whether you drink beer or liquor, or how long you’ve been drinking alcohol for. The important thing is to recognize a problem, and do something about it today!